Have you ever felt like you just need to have some peace and quiet away from everyone else? Wanting to spend time alone is a very normal feeling and it is, in fact, a necessity. We all sometimes need to spend some alone time and be by ourselves. However, at the same time, the idea of being alone can be scary. It is natural to feel weird about making a dinner reservation for one. However, if we never spend any time alone, then how do we know who we really are or what we want in life? Learning to be alone and actually enjoying it will help you to become more tuned into your mind and body. It will also help you avoid having toxic friendships and relationships because you are not afraid of being alone. Here are some suggestions on why and how you can enjoy your own company and love every second of it.
Learn about yourself
When we are alone and by ourselves, we are forced to become our own friend. This will give us a chance to really get to know ourselves better. We will think about what we like and what we enjoy to do. We also learn about what we dislike. It is important to get to know yourself the same way you get to know anyone you meet. You can start by showing curiosity and compassion for yourself. Learning about yourself creates a better understanding of your own thoughts and feelings, as well as your behavior.
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Find “your thing” and make time for it
We all have a “thing”; it’s just the matter of figuring out what it actually is. Sit on your couch, get a notepad, and write down whatever interests you. It could be signing up for a cooking lesson or something as simple as going for a run. Whatever it is, make sure that you make it a priority and actually do it on a regular basis.
Book a holiday for one
This could be a very challenging and scary thing to do for many people because it forces you to leave your comfort zone and try something completely new. Just remember that you are your own friend and a solo trip could feel like you are on holiday with your best friend. Although it may seem hard, it will give you a chance to spend some quality time with yourself in a new environment and learn things about yourself. So, pick a destination that fits your preferences and don’t hesitate to book it!
Take yourself out for a nice meal
Yes, calling your favorite restaurant to book a table for one is difficult. You may feel lonely or like you are being judged for dining on your own, but you deserve to enjoy your own company at a nice restaurant. Order your favorite food and drink and enjoy this little treat.
Talk to yourself
We all have an inner voice that speaks to us at all hours of the day and it really is okay to talk back. It’s easy to ignore your inner voice when you are surrounded with people. However, you can’t ignore it when you are on your own. So learn to listen to your inner voice, be positive, and be kind to yourself. Listen to what your inner voice is saying with compassion and be mindful of your thought patterns.
Learning about yourself and being able to enjoy your own company will help you to become more independent as a person. As a result, you will be better able to establish and maintain healthy friendships and relationships. When you know what you want and you are happy being on your own, you can be content until you find what you are looking for in your relationships with others.
Which of these suggestions feels more doable for you?
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8 comments
Being comfortable your own company is an important part of having a balanced life. These tips offer great suggestions for making alone time enjoyable. Great post, Kimia!
Great topic. I especially appreciate the idea that being comfortable spending time alone and taking time to do that helps us know ourselves better and helps us know what we want from relationships with others
Thanks for this post, Kimia! Learning to enjoy time spent alone is so valuable, but it can be an intimidating task for many. Your tips provide a great way to get started on the path to #sololiving 🙂
Great post Kimia! Such a necessary part of living and your points make a tough topic very doable and approachable!
An important building block for a healthy relationship with others begins with a healthy relationship with yourself! Thanks for highlighting this!
Thanks for this great post, Kimia! It is such an important reminder that spending time with ourselves can be so positive and a powerful way to know ourselves better.
Good post, Kimia! This post surely teaches people how to be comfortable with being alone at times. For me, I have learned how to be alone without feeling lonely. I imagine that these tips will help others do the same.
I don’t have an inner voice.