Anger Management: What We Get Wrong About Anger [Video]

Anger often gets treated as a problem we need to control or eliminate. However, anger can tell us something important about our feelings and needs. This blog explores the difference between defensive anger and core anger. Defensive anger can protect us from vulnerable feelings like shame, guilt, sadness, or embarrassment. Core anger often appears when someone crosses a boundary or leaves a need unmet. Recognizing the difference can help us respond with greater awareness and intention. This information will help us learn healthy anger management strategies.

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Instead of trying to eliminate anger, we can learn to understand and use its energy. We can notice how anger feels in our bodies and explore what lies underneath it. We can also identify the needs or boundaries that may require our attention. The blog introduces a brief “Fists of Anger” exercise to help with this process. The exercise helps you feel more grounded while staying connected to what your anger is communicating.