Valentine’s Day: a day that can bring up a mix of emotions. Whether you’re planning a romantic gesture, choosing to keep things low-key, or feeling somewhere in between, it’s hard to ignore the focus on love. But amidst the flowers and chocolates, there’s one kind of love that deserves more attention: the love you have for yourself.
Why Loving and Respecting Yourself Matters
It might sound cliché, but self-love and self-respect aren’t selfish—they’re essential. They form the foundation of all healthy relationships, romantic or otherwise. When you appreciate and accept yourself, it becomes easier to build meaningful connections with others. Prioritizing self-love helps boost confidence, emotional well-being, and a sense of inner peace.
Valentine’s Day is often associated with grand romantic gestures, but one of the most valuable relationships you can nurture is the one you have with yourself. When you take time for your own happiness and well-being, you create a fulfilling life, independent of external validation. Self-love isn’t about indulgence or fleeting affirmations—it’s about appreciating yourself for who you truly are, flaws and all.
This day can also be an opportunity to reflect on your journey—where you’ve been and where you’re headed. Maybe it’s a time to let go of self-doubt, recognize your strengths, or simply take a moment to be present with yourself in a busy world.
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Love Beyond Romance: Finding Joy in Yourself
Love isn’t just about romance. It can be found in quiet moments of accomplishment, the laughter shared with friends, the satisfaction of working toward a personal goal, or the comfort of engaging in something you love. It’s in the way you treat yourself with kindness, the patience you show in challenging moments, and the grace you extend to yourself as you grow.
It’s also in the simple joys—reading a favorite book, enjoying a peaceful morning, or treating yourself to something special. Love shows up in the way you encourage yourself, embrace your uniqueness, and make space for self-care. It’s about recognizing your value and nurturing your own well-being.
A Lifelong Practice of Self-Love
This Valentine’s Day, let the love and appreciation you have for yourself be enough. You are your own greatest love story—embrace it fully, unapologetically, and with the same devotion you offer to others. Not as an afterthought, but as an ongoing practice of honoring who you are. When you prioritize self-love, the love you give and receive from others can feel even more meaningful. It allows you to connect with others authentically and build stronger, more fulfilling relationships.
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4 comments
I think Valentines Day is a great day to treat yourself to something special that you don’t usually do – pamper yourself! Get a pedicure or a message or take that workout class you’ve been meaning to try. It’s a great day to show yourself and your body some love!
I always like to give myself a valentine on this day too. It is nice to show love for others but like Nikki, I think today is a great opportunity to paper myself.
A wise one person once advised me to look into the mirror daily, look into my own eyes, and say the mantra: “I love and approve of myself”. And to notice what came up! The first time I tried this I totally cringed – which was useful information about my relationship with myself. Over time I found the practice to be transformative in ways I don’t have the words to describe – I recommend it!
Self love is the ultimate test-and I realize my sense of self acceptance or caring on a given day can be on a continuum. So Im happy when Im gentle with myself and my critical feelings of myself and others. I try to enjoy all my imperfections.