Listen More and Give Advice Less
In this video blog post, psychotherapist Anna Goodhand discusses the importance of listening more and giving less advice. From a young age, many of us are conditioned to receive advice when we share problems, which continues into adulthood. Anna emphasizes how unsolicited advice can make us feel incompetent. The urge to give advice stems from a desire to fix others’ problems, but this approach can come across as patronizing.
Anna shares that most people want to feel seen, heard, and understood when they share their problems. Active listening involves being fully present and non-judgmental. Practicing active listening validates the other person’s feelings and creates a more meaningful, supportive relationship where we feel heard.
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Former Psychotherapist at myTherapyNYC
Offers individual and couples counseling in NYC. Specializes in Trauma, LGBTQ, Disability and Sexuality/Intimacy.
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