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Finding the right therapist in NYC can feel overwhelming, especially if you are looking for individual therapy for anxiety, depression, or other personal mental health concerns. Our licensed therapists provide individual counseling in New York City for adults who feel stuck, frustrated, or unsure why lasting change has been so hard to achieve. You may feel disconnected from yourself, weighed down by self doubt, or dissatisfied with your work or relationships, even though you are trying your best to move forward. Individual therapy offers a space to better understand what is happening internally and to develop new ways of relating to yourself and the world around you. Based in Manhattan, we offer in person and virtual therapy for clients across NYC.
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Finding the right therapist in NYC can feel overwhelming, especially if you are looking for individual therapy for anxiety, depression, or other personal mental health concerns. Our licensed therapists provide individual counseling in New York City for adults who feel stuck, frustrated, or unsure why lasting change has been so hard to achieve. You may feel disconnected from yourself, weighed down by self doubt, or dissatisfied with your work or relationships, even though you are trying your best to move forward. Individual therapy offers a space to better understand what is happening internally and to develop new ways of relating to yourself and the world around you. Based in Manhattan, we offer in person and virtual therapy for clients across NYC.
Dissatisfaction in career, relationships, or life in general
Difficulty adjusting to significant life transitions, such as the end of a relationship or a move
Struggles with pervasive sadness, depression, anxiety, anger, or low self-esteem
Reliance on compulsive behaviors or in recovery
Feeling overwhelmed by thoughts about the future, past, or present
Desire to reconnect internally and heal emotional wounds
Because you’re doing well and you still want to keep growing
No matter what you are struggling with, by working with a professional therapist, you can develop the tools and insight you need to make a change. Individual therapy can help you:
Our therapists are active participants in the treatment and work collaboratively with each client in the therapeutic process. Depending on your particular experience and needs, our therapists can also help you address and resolve specific issues.
Individual counseling, also called individual therapy, is a one-on-one session between you and a therapist focused entirely on your thoughts, feelings, experiences, and goals. At myTherapyNYC, we emphasise a personalised and holistic approach. Therapy is, first and foremost, a way to ease the sense of aloneness and build a trusting, collaborative relationship with someone who accepts you as you are.
Couples therapy, by contrast, focuses on the dynamics between two partners and how they relate, communicate, resolve conflict, and grow together. Group therapy involves multiple participants, often three or more, and offers peer support, shared experiences, group dynamics, and a sense of reduced isolation.
You might choose individual therapy if you feel stuck, disconnected, or dissatisfied in areas like work, relationships, or daily life, and want to understand what is beneath those feelings. It can also be helpful if you are experiencing persistent anxiety, depression, shame, or self-criticism; or if you are navigating a major life transition such as a move, job change, or breakup. Many people also come to therapy not because something is “wrong” but because they want to grow, deepen self-understanding, or live more authentically.
If you are unsure whether individual therapy is the best next step, you can begin with a consultation. myTherapyNYC offers a free fifteen-minute phone consultation where you can talk through your questions and get a sense of whether individual therapy feels like the right fit for you. You can do so here.
You may feel like there is no pressing “issue” you have to work on, but you just want overall growth. In this case, therapy can offer you a dedicated space to deepen your self-awareness and offer you the opportunity to grow. It can be a way to accelerate your own development, have clarity and authenticity in your life, and live more fully.
At myTherapyNYC, the specialties include a broad range of concerns, for example:
To learn about each of our therapists and their specialities, check out their bios here.
At myTherapyNYC, the approach is eclectic and tailored; they draw from a variety of theoretical models to match the client’s needs. But the key message is that your therapist will collaborate with you to find the combination of tools, strategies, and insights that is best suited for you. Here are some of the approaches and modalities we draw on in our work:
Absolutely – you do not need prior therapy experience to begin. Many people are new to therapy, and part of the work is orienting, building trust, understanding how therapy works, and setting your pace.
Yes! After we learn more about you through our intake process, we’ll offer you some therapist options based on what you describe about yourself. Our website details our therapists’ specialties and approaches so that you can make a thoughtful decision. If, after working with a therapist, you find it is not working for you, we will absolutely help to switch you to another therapist that may be a better fit.
For individual therapy sessions, depending on your insurance, the typical session is anywhere between 45 and 55 minutes long.
At myTherapyNYC, believe long-term weekly psychotherapy is the model of treatment that is most effective.
It varies significantly depending on your goals, the issues you’re working on, how frequently you attend, and your preference. At myTherapyNYC, because the approach is personalized and holistic, some people may work for a few months (short-term) and others stay for longer (long-term) as growth continues.
At myTherapyNYC, we believe long-term weekly psychotherapy is the model of treatment that is most effective. It’s common to begin with a few sessions and then decide whether you’d like to continue long-term or may need to adjust your schedule. Additionally, one of the benefits of working with a group practice is that if you find that the therapist you are working with is not a strong fit for you, we can always help match you with someone else who may more closely align with your needs.
If you are based in New York, you can visit our offices for in-person therapy in NYC. We’re located in the Financial District (74 Broad Street, New York City). We also offer virtual therapy as well.
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